13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do by Amy Morin is the cure to make one free from mental illness. The book tells you the secrets by which people find success in their lives. The book teaches several lessons to train your brain, accept challenges, face your fears, embrace change and so on. Amy Morin shares her own life story that she faced mental illness when her mother and husband died. She was totally depressed but due to a long struggle, she overcomes from all depressions. After that she wrote this book to provide some tips in the shape of this book to guide people to be free from mental illness and depression. Apart from these, Mentally Strong People don’t do those things which create instability and take out comfortably of their lives. They avoid negative thoughts, fear of failure, avoid repeating the same mistakes and resenting other’s success.
In today’s life mental illness is one of the biggest challenges being faced by every individual. Most people do not complete and defeat themselves in front of mental illness because they lack the basic principles to overcome these challenges of life. The book is a guide for every individual to make yourself free from mental illness.
They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves:
Feeling sorry for yourself is one of the biggest reasons of one’s failure. It creates negative thoughts, feelings which prevent one to come out from the obstacles. It has been proved that time is a great force in life. When it is wasted with useless activities then it does not bring sweaty for you in future. Therefore, “Feeling sorry for yourself is self-destructive.” It destroys the relationships of two individuals.
Give away their power:
It is the nature of every individual when they failure something in life, blame others for their failure. They consider others the real obstacles of their way. We always blame our friends, parents, teachers and society for our own problems. We feel physically and mentally tired and try to escape our responsibilities. The book teaches a great lesson, “You will become a passenger in your own life rather than a driver. You will say other people make you feel bad or force you to behave in a manner you do not like. You will blame others instead of accepting responsibility for your choices.” Dale Carnegie nicely quoted that “When we hate out enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health and our happiness.” They will take complete properties from us and our proactiveness will turn into reactiveness.
They don’t focus on things that cannot control:
Every obstacle and problem may not be possible for an individual to control them. When someone tries to control everything in life, it can lead them towards destruction. It creates a number of problems that will take the peace of mind and put you in deep troubles. Most people do not come out from the obstacles of life because they want to control everything happening around them. Morin nicely wrote a few lines, “It feels so safe to have everything under control, but thinking we have the power to always pull the strings can become problematic.” Mentally strong people always do those things which build good relationships, create happiness and improve mental strengths.
They don’t fear taking calculated risks:
“There is only one thing that makes out dream impossible to achieve it: the fear of failure.” People in this world are always afraid of taking risks, they never take risks just because of failure. The fear of failure can stop them to not take those risks which are the biggest reasons of their success. “A lack of knowledge about how to calculate risk leads to increased fear.” The fear of taking risks will make them miss the biggest opportunities of life.
They don’t dwell on the past:
Every human being has experienced their past, some of them have learnt or improved but some of them have given up due to past failure. Mentally strong people learn their past, they try to recover those mistakes which were repeated because the same past cannot be repeated again and again. “Although self-reflection is healthy, dwelling can be self-destrictive, preventing you from enjoying the present and planning for the future. But you don’t have to stay stuck in the past. You can choose to start living in the moment. It is easy for us to imagine that life could be better if we could only change the past.”
They don’t make the same mistakes over and over:
Repeating the same mistakes over and over can lead one towards failure and depression. It is better for an individual to not repeat the same mistakes every time. Nobody is perfect in this world, everyone has weaknesses, everyone does mistakes but the most important thing is to learn from your mistakes and not to revise it at the same time. Mentally strong people do mistakes but they consider them as the biggest challenge and work on these araes. They accept the responsibility for the mistakes, they do different things avoid them in future. “If you keep repeating the same mistakes, you will not ever reach your goal. Instead , you will stay stuck at the same point and will not be able to move forward.”
They don’t resent other people’s success:
“The more time you spend focusing on someone else’s achievements, the less time you have to work on your own goals. Animosity over someone else’s achievements only serves as a distraction that will slow down your progress.” It is one of the most important habits of mentally strong people to not waste their time and not to focus other’s achievements. They will learn what they do, they will implement them in the quest of their success. Resenting someone will destroy or damage the relationships. You will not be able to build or maintain a healthy relationships with someone else.
They don’t give up after the first failure:
Failure is the first step of success. It shows one’s weaknesses and creates opportunities to work for better results. Mentally strong people don’t give up on their failures, they find different ways to take out its solution. “You make not control all the events that happen to you but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” One can see numerous examples in this world who failed hundreds of times but they did not lose their courage and work confidently with full time. Mentally strong people do not give up on their dreams though there are many ups and downs to stop them but they are the drivers of their own car, they do not let the car to excuse, continue their destination till they reach.
There are some more steps which are done by mentally strong people like they don’t say away from change, they don’t focus on things they cannot control, they don’t worry about pleasing everyone, they don’t fear alone time, they don’t feel the world owes them anything and they don’t expect immediate results.
After reading this book, one can find some ways to maintain your mental strength but reading is not enough, one has to implement them in their practical life and do them every moment of each passing days. The book simply teaches some true facts which are necessary for an individual if he/she wants a comfortable and a peaceful life without any stress, depression and anxiety. I highly recommend 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do for every individual if someone really wants some tips for a better life. The one who is a reader and a seeker should read this book and enhance some knowledge about mental strength.